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I posted in forum. Long time no post for me, I know. I still read in here all the time, and I am grateful to you D. And feel guilty for not being able to help, in the way of $ or good advice.
I really need to get out and just be alone for a bit and regroup. Tired of crying and not being able to express myself, or just feeling like a total failure.
I have been so unhappy, and by being such I have probably let everyone down. I feel like no one wants to be around me right now anyway. I dont feel sorry for myself, just angry at myself for not mananging my life/self better. I have lost myself.
I needed to be a better example to my kids, and now grandkids.
Today
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my husband is a complete loser, without me he would be nothing and have nothing and he is to stupid to see it
02/07/12
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THANK YOU Ladies! WOW! I feel better already after reading a few of the posts. I was feeling soooo alone & sad. We have only been married for 1 month, he's a piece of work. I am so over him being such a jerk. He's 12 years older than me, he literally makes me soooo sick. I had never not been attracted to him in the past. He honestly is so childish! I am soooo disgusted by him. I think it's because he's so mean. It hurts even more when he's mean because he's a Pastor. It's like he's 2 different people. He keeps saying things like you're MY wife. He attempts to order me to do things. He wants me to respect him, he doesn't respect me though. He acts sooo childish about things. I understand we are 2 people joined together as 1 now. However it takes both of us. Some of the things he says blow my mind. I have been praying, it's sooo hard!
02/06/12
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I dont even know where to begin other then im bored, angry bitter and STILL HERE,oh well in a matter of time this will be over with.
02/01/12
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I'm beginning to think my husband sucks at his job. I know the economy is tough, but he tells me he's getting in trouble at work for stupid things. He's gotten laid off 4 times in the last 3 years. Sigh. Just worried number 5 is going to be next.
01/31/12
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I found this site quite by accident and loving it already. God, I could write a freakin' book! The sperm donor ex, even after being divorced since 85, he still is a douche to the nth degree. I'll write more, but honestly, his true colors, and I mean, TRUE COLORS, his family included, came shining through when my oldest died in Nov 2010. The stories I can tell, but THAT time took the cake. Loser is not low enough.......
I think I'm going to like it here! 
01/26/12
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Same ole shit same loser husband but have been accepted into my 33 month program!!! FREEDOM is on its way!!!!! Cant help but smile at him as I think about what is coming in his future!!! Of course he thinks its because He is so wonderful, hmmm now if only his mother would drop dead, my plan would be even better, but evil doesn't die that fast.....PS got rid of rotten stepkids too.....no more nice stepmother, they suck like their parents LOL
01/22/12
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This morning I smile because I am fully aware that I no longer have to take his crap. He is sending me text message after text message complaining about the power being out, the trees falling, the snow, the ice, his car not making it up the hill, blah blah blah blah.
Sorry dude, not my problem. I moved out in September. You were so freaking insistant on you keeping the house you refused to leave so your wife and two children could stay in their home. It's yours now babe.
I could care less, I have no sympathy. Don't you realize your text messages only make me smile cuz it ain't my problem???
Silly man. Must have gotten dumped by his latest lay to be interested in talking to me again.
01/15/12
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well lets see 11 and a half years of this wonderful union. the joy and confidence he gives me is amazing. The most patient way he speakes to our children when correcting them or helping with their homework.
Okay xanax kicked in, he is in his usual spot asleep on couch behind me. Lets get real. I can not believe I allow the behavior that goes on. When I was younger before I had kids I never would have allowed someone to spit in my face, throw me around, force me into sex and demean me 24/7. He talks to our two boys the same way and wonder why they hate him. Hes childish and uncontrollable. He breaks things, tells them they are idiots, stupid and oif they marry someone like me then they should call their wives whores and cunts and stupid retarded turds as well. i can not begin to remember the names he has used on me its the tone, really. I have had five expartes against him, but he is the only one who works and I have no family to go to so i tell myself i need him for now. I lock me and the kids in their rooms, he breaks the door down, he has jumred on the roof of my car and hid my shoes, she is insane yet manages to go to work every day which is the hold he has on my, becasue im just a fat lazy worthless whore who will never be more than that. he hates me.
lord get me out of this
01/07/12
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Last night I broke up with my fiance, I mean my boyfriend or is it my boss. This guy wooed me during while I was in a long term relationship, while we were having commitment issues. He became my friend ( I thought) Asked me to marry him. When I said yes, he said we needed to live together first, so I said ok. (Ring first please) Then I found him leaving his ex- wives house. We broke up. Then he said, nothing happened" whatever. We worked it out, marriage was off because he said we needed to date each other more. Then got me a job at his company and reminded me constantly that he was my boss. And within a month of my dream job, he fires me. The company let me keep my job, but shipped me to the other side of the country. ok. Well three weeks later he transfers himself to my team. Wooing me again. We get home and he said we just dont get along. So, I take off to Vegas to see my family. He woos me again. Sorrys and I love you. He looks for a new place for us as I am moving out of my house. The day everything gets moved into storage, he tells me that he is taking a job on the road for three months and I could go live with my dad. I got my house back. He breaks up on New Years and calls my family because I want to paint my garage. He bought me a dvd player for Christmas after three years of this. Then gave back the Watch I got him for his birthday a few days ago, saying he wouldn't wear it. So I broke it off. I so need therapy right now. He called me nuts and crazy, which is usually a defense mechanism for men that do not know how to communicate correctly. God give me strength
01/06/12
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Crystal...that was wicked funny the song remark, thanks sooo much, it has helped me laugh everytime I have had to walk by my personal dumbass husband tonight!!!! I had forgotten what my laugh sounds like, I also liked your advice, but only in my mind am i free to vacate from this douche bag.
01/06/12
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My husband is a real low life, immature, stupid, uneducated and what was I thinking when I married him??? SHOOT ME NOW!!! I am at this point trying to get into my 33 month college program so I can Yep, that's right, "Drop off the key Lee" remember that song??? I have a 35 month plan to get the hell out of here and move back east asap when I pass my boards. I have decided to slowly build new friends that he does not know and have a good circle of new friends to help support me while I begin my "exodus from the pharoah" I also plan on slowly moving and or selling my things as the time gets near so I can literally disappear on a one way flight to my new home. I plan on opening new savings account and will begin to start to save monies. I am really sick to my stomache over the fact that I made the biggest mistake in my life, but planning and timing is everything!!!! I know that there is a person who will appreciate me and respect me and that I deserve better, trust me I will get better!!!! If there is anyone out there who can relate to this, just remember that there are good men out there, just not the ones we married!!! I will use this site as a venting board as I can only smile and nod as I execute my plan, so thanks, I will keep you abreast on my freedom journey......
01/06/12
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My husband is a real low life, immature, stupid, uneducated and what was I thinking when I married him??? SHOOT ME NOW!!! I am at this point trying to get into my 33 month college program so I can Yep, that's right, "Drop off the key Lee" remember that song??? I have a 35 month plan to get the hell out of here and move back east asap when I pass my boards. I have decided to slowly build new friends that he does not know and have a good circle of new friends to help support me while I begin my "exodus from the pharoah" I also plan on slowly moving and or selling my things as the time gets near so I can literally disappear on a one way flight to my new home. I plan on opening new savings account and will begin to start to save monies. I am really sick to my stomache over the fact that I made the biggest mistake in my life, but planning and timing is everything!!!! I know that there is a person who will appreciate me and respect me and that I deserve better, trust me I will get better!!!! If there is anyone out there who can relate to this, just remember that there are good men out there, just not the ones we married!!! I will use this site as a venting board as I can only smile and nod as I execute my plan, so thanks, I will keep you abreast on my freedom journey......
01/04/12
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My husband is the biggest loser I've ever encountered.
01/03/12
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There is a song called "how can I miss you when you wont go away" Take a week long vacation from your husband as often as you can. It gives your husband a time to think about things. And don't answer his every call. You may realize you are better off without him.
12/26/11
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@Avi - {{{{{{hugs}}}}} and more hugs. You do deserve better. You do deserve more. I hope next year brings some good your way and things improve. You know we luv ya here!
12/25/11
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I spent the night on the couch again. I move myself away from him when he starts snoring or stinking from the booze. He was doing both last night.
I gave him his christmas present last night. And, as usual, he pouted and said he had not gotten me anything and made excuses.
I should know better. He never spends 5 minutes thinking about me, so why should today be any different? Am I just being greedy to want someone sometime to care about me as something other than their personal whore, chef, banker and maid?
We were watching a movie last night and mention was made in the movie about Valentines Day. He got up at that point to go out and have a cigarette and made a comment that women need to figure it out that Valentines Day and all these other bullshit holidays are just a damned hassle for guys.
Apparently we have just been fooling ourselves, ladies. Men don't do anything for us because they care, or want us to be happy. No. They do things for us just to get us to shut up or to get laid. All the men lurking on this board are smiling and nodding their heads at this.
We need to figure it out that men don't care about us in the slightest. They "deal" with holidays just to get us off their backs and onto ours.
Thanks guys. I know I really appreciate being ignored, and berated at every holiday for expecting someone to give a shit about me. And, of course, I now know that you all feed the same way about women. You hate us deep down and wish we would shut up and stop expecting anything from you.
I wish there were a home lobotomy kit about now so I could just do something to force myself to not care and stop crying. You would think after 10 years I would figure it out.
12/25/11
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MERRY CHRISTMAS LADIES!!!
Hope you all have a great day!!
12/21/11
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I came across this advice on the internet today. I love it and will share it with all of us here
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t "be friends." A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think "it will get better." You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else’s man. Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.
All men are not dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
Dating is fun; even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him—he takes it for granted. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies. You’ll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget them.
12/21/11
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Hi y'all!
I just wanted to stop by to wish you all a very Merry Christmas! I know what it is like to live with someone who doesn't respect me. I have gone through hell to get away and I have very little left. I haven't been able to find full-time work, I have no health insurance, and I only get to see my son every Wednesday and every other weekend. I live with a man who won't commit to me and I don't know how long I will have a place to live. But all of my choices are my own and I walk in the free air. My ex continues to try to control me and uses our son against me. He lost his job working as an engineer. So he told our son that in the future if he wants or needs anything he should come to me because I am the only one with a job and I have all of the money. I am an on-call government worker. I work an average of three shifts a month for $11/hr. I guarantee that nobody is getting rich here. He blocked my phone number because he claims that I have been calling and cursing at him. I have pages and pages of obscene emails, texts, letters, and also voice mail files that I have saved of him cursing, calling me names both amusing and not so much, and accusing me of some pretty unmentionable things. So now I have no phone contact with my son and no way of communicating with my ex. Specifically I told him that I would no longer communicate with him if he didn't stop calling me $lut. So that's how he retaliated.
This last year has sucked so hard I can hardly believe it. I have paid $20k in attorney fees. But I have my son this year for Christmas and I was able to provide a nice holiday for him. Who knows what next year will bring? I am going to count my blessings for now and pray for love and peace and full-time work. And tonight I will say an extra prayer for all of you. Thanks for being there for all these years. God bless us all!
12/20/11
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Good for you FW!!!!!! We need a "like" button here like on Facebook, lol.
I'm really happy for you!
12/20/11
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I have a confession. I know my ex didn't change his email password and every now and then (twice now since I moved out), I look at his email. I did it again last night. Part of me is worried because I choose a lifestyle that is a bit out of the realm of typical and I am worried he will use it against me with regard to custody. And part of me wants to find more proof of all the cheating he has done on me.
Last night I read his emails to friends about why we split up. No big surprise there, of course he lied and put the spin that I am the big bad wolf.
Last night I read his emails to friends about last weekend and his big trip to meet this girl he's been flirting with online and spend the weekend in a hotel room with her.
Last night I was so happy for two reasons. One I found no evidence he's going to use my lifestyle against me and two, I had absolutely no part of me that was sad or angry or upset at reading about his sexual escapades. I really could care less. It didn't make me feel at all upset. Which I think is pretty freaking cool.
It shows me I am truly done with the relationship. I am truly done with him. I have moved on and I hold no emotions from him. I am free. I am alive. I did it. I survived. I thrived.
And I am happier now than I ever dreamed I could be. I love my life.
12/19/11
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Ok, I am tired of always having to repeat myself to you. After 7 years of marriage, I would think you would know me by now.... what I like, dont like, etc... I shouldn't have to detail everything on the grocery list if you KNOW me! I tried to talk to you today to tell you about a dream I had and you interrupted me like you always do just to make some stupid remark about something that isn't even on the subject. I barely got it started out of my mouth before you cut me off. No matter what its all about you will never listen to me! What do I have to do to get you to notice me again, to listen to my words like you used to? I don't want to give up on you; on us but my limit is just about to be reached. I might as well be as dead as my parents to you lately. It hurts so much.... you hurt me so much because you refuse to communicate with me and listen to me.
12/19/11
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go to bed mad every night because you refuse to listen to anything, I slave for you and you don't even notice, you're a jerk ALL THE TIME, you can't even be nice to our babies, just work eat play video games sleep and bitch. And then call me a bitch. Oh and I don't contribute, I'm just supporting our family with my school money. Yeah your whole 5 hours a week really helps. To support your fucking smoking habit, anyway. FUCK THIS. 5 years of SHIT.
12/15/11
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I just wish he would STFU. Says he agrees about things, then at the last minute he changes his mind and does a complete 180.
Poor communicator or sadistic manipulator?
I just am so sick of this shit. Of course, he makes the flake outs look like my fault-fickle female crap he has to put up with.
Other names for this bandied about by other people are
Unstable. Time wasting. Inconsiderate. Brain damaged.
So, I am not the only one tripping here. Daddy knows best. I am being gas-lighted.
12/12/11
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I've recently discovered a singer whose voice I just love, and her music is beautiful as are the lyrics. Been listening to this today after a particularly crappy weekend, feeling a bit sorry for myself, and this song goes out to my soon-to-be ex-husband.
"Turning Tables" by Adele
Close enough to start a war
All that I have is on the floor
God only knows what we're fighting for
All that I say, you always say more
I can't keep up with your turning tables
Under your thumb I can't breathe
So, I won't let you close enough to hurt me
No, I won't rescue you to just desert me
I can't give you the heart you think you gave me
It's time to say goodbye to turning tables
To turning tables
Under haunted skies I see you (ooh)
Where love is lost your ghost is found
I braved a hundred storms to leave you
As hard as you try, no, I will never be knocked down
I can't keep up with your turning tables
Under your thumb I can't breathe
So, I won't let you close enough to hurt me,
No, I won't rescue you to just desert me
I can't give you the heart you think you gave me
It's time to say goodbye to turning tables
Turning tables
Next time I'll be braver
I'll be my own savior
When the thunder calls for me
Next time I'll be braver
I'll be my own savior
Standing on my own two feet
I won't let you close enough to hurt me,
No, I won't rescue you to just desert me
I can't give you the heart you think you gave me
It's time to say goodbye to turning tables
To turning tables
Turning tables, yeah
Turning, oh
12/12/11
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We are married and you still wont commit.
Sex is lously lately. You are so unaffectionate. Not like we used to be. I would think you were cheating but you dont want any sex. It hurts so much to get the silent treatment after being attacked verbaly for honestly asking innocent questions or saying basic things. I deserve better. I love you feircely. But I dont like you. You are so negative and angry. You are always bitching and moaning. Life is hard and not fair. Why do I have to take this abuse?
I am your friend and you are shitting all over me. I want to leave, I want to stay. But I am so tired of walking on egg shells. Why cant you see how much you shove me away. this sucks. it sucks to be me. I have done nothing to deserve this abuse. you suck. i really wish i could say this to your face, but you wouldnt let me get two words out before you started ranting.
I want peace. so many people want to hurt me. why you too?
I used to be a pretty happy soul. Now my soul aches. its tired, hell im tired.
I'm just too old for this b.s. wish i had money to pay for counseling or to buy you a place of your own. anything to not feel so deseperate for you to acknowledge me. whatever.
12/10/11
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Today you chose to put me and our daughter's LAST in your life.You chose to cause a major fight this morning,which resulted in our daughter's missing out on your employers holiday party,which was meant for CHILDREN mostly.They missed out on seeing "Santa",who was to give them each a gift.They missed out on other activities that were planned for their party.They missed out on a hot turkey dinner and we were forced to run out of the house w/out any food eaten at that point,while you stayed home and obviously ate by yourself.
You traumatized our daughter's,with your refusal to even take a shower and get ready and take OUR family to your employers holiday party (for children b/c they don't offer one for you and your co-workers who work outside all day and make their company the most money).And you did that all b/c your two brother's,who also work at same company,would be there as well,with their wives and children.You kept OUR family away from there,all b/c YOU wanted to avoid CONFRONTATION of any kind.You did it b/c you were putting your brother's and their fat,ignorant bitch wives feelings FIRST,far ahead of mine and our daughter's feelings.
You refused to go take our daughter's to THEIR holiday party,all b/c four people,whom you unfortunately are related to,don't speak to ME,b/c they started treating ME like I was a piece of DIRT,soon after we started dating and it's been happening now for the past 14yrs!
YOU traumatized our daughter's,while they sat here all dressed and ready to go to THEIR party,by causing a major fight with me.I couldn't even finish getting ready and left the house w/o my makeup finished.I couldn't even finish it in the car,b/c I was crying too much to be able to.
I took our daughter's,w/o any of us eating any breakfast or lunch by that time,(b/c we thought we were going to eat at the party),to the store b/c I needed money and so I took back the presents I had purchased that were meant to send to my Mom and sister,who unfortunately live 14hrs drive away.
I took that money and fortunately the store that I took those presents back to,had a Santa there so children could sit w/him and get their picture taken.So our daughter's sat w/Santa for a picture.But their sadness showed in their eyes and you can see it when you look closely at their eyes.They smiled,but it also filled w/sadness,but only I saw that.I hope.But I know several people in that store,saw ME crying the entire time I was in there,no matter how hard I tried to stop.I was hurting for our daughter's.Not just me.Mainly for them.
And fortunately where we got the pictures taken w/Santa,they gave the option to have a picture cd of that picture,so I then went to another store and was able to print off 15 photos,which I will include in the cards I send to MY family and friends.Your family can kiss my ass b/c they don't deserve a photo of our beautiful daughter's in the slightest.
Not for your parents b/c your Dad beat you and your brother's with a belt when you were all little or for your Mom who didn't protect you from that but enabled it.Not for your parents who raised you to be SCARED and AVOID situations,and DENY your's AND your spouse's feelings and especially for raising you to be of complete and utter REFUSAL TO COMMUNICATE,unless it's "skimming the surface" ONLY.
No picture especially for your two brother's and their bitch wives,who have not given our daughter's a birthday present for many years now,and ONLY gave them some money THIS year,b/c your family's camping outing was just after our daughter's birthdays.Don't know why this year was any different from all the rest of your ignorant brothers and their bitch wives avoiding giving our daughter's a birthday present.Not to mention that OUR daughter's ALWAYS get ripped off by all of THEM at your family's christmas get togethers,while YOU go out and spend $30 each on four of THEIR kids.
You refused to take our daughter's just for a few hours for THEIR holiday party,all b/c YOU and YOUR family expect and are demanding for ME to apologize to a fat bitch that I never did anything wrong to,except try to get information to her to stop drinking alcohol while she was pregnant and then while she was breastfeeding her first child.SHE didn't give birth to a dead baby girl at 35wks and her twin sister who ALMOST died as well.I DID THAT.SHE didn't suffer through THREE more miscarriages after that,I DID.SHE didn't have to take medication to ensure the successful birth of her second child,I DID THAT.
But did YOU or YOUR family,give me the slightest SYMPATHY for ANY of that?NO YOU AND THEY DIDN'T!
And YOU weren't there for ME through ANY OF MY GRIEF DURING ALL OF THOSE YEARS!Your family didn't have the decency to send me one sympathy card!YOU didn't even offer YOUR APOLOGIES,for causing me the highest stress through each of those pregnancies.NOT ONCE.
And NOW,you and your pathetic family,expect ME to apologize to your pathetic SIL?FORGET IT.Not going to happen.EVER.
I wanted to go to the party today FOR OUR DAUGHTER'S.NO ONE ELSE.I was doing my best to rise above all the BS you and your family are trying to throw at me,for a situation that happened 10yrs ago!I was the one rising above going to a place where I could very well be verbally (and I wouldn't doubt physically) attacked by that SIL,just so our daughter's could finally go to a holiday party meant for THEM,b/c they haven't been to one in three years!
For some reason,you grew some balls this past summer,when you stood up for OUR family and said that we were ALL going to go your Mom's reunion or NONE of us were going!You stood up to your parents and told them THAT and we ALL went and had a great time!And you have no idea how much I fell in love w/you even more at that moment,just for doing that!
And that pathetic SIL kept HER family from attending that reunion,just b/c I was going too!But at THAT time,you said it was HER problem if she didn't want to go just b/c I was going to be there too!And again,I feel in love with you even more for that too.
But as soon as you started working w/your brother's again...YOU LOST YOUR BALLS AGAIN!!!
And now,b/c you work w/your brothers again at the same company (and that was WHY I didn't want you going back to work there!),you are SCARED to stand up to them where I am concerned.And that is one thing,not to do that for ME.But when your actions are hurting our daughter's,that just makes you the most pathetic daddy in the world!!!
And now,b/c you are trying to be your brother's best friend and your SIL's BUDDY,it is OUR family that is placed LAST on your list!Just so YOU can act like the big kahuna where your brother's and their wives are concerned!
I told our eldest daughter at the store,that either you will be gone when we come back or you will have put our holiday tree up.We walked in to see the tree put together.
I was fine w/the thought of you NOT being here when we got back home.
And right now,you're acting like "Daddy of the Year",playing a game w/our daughter's.B/c that's YOUR sick little GAME,it's called MIND GAMES.
From this day forward,you won't EVER get the chance,to emotionally and mentally abuse me and our daughter's for ANY of your sick little immature reasons!
If you EVER try the BS you pulled today at ANY point in our future,the only thing I will do is start packing your clothes for you!
I found the "plea" comment from "Full of regrets and what if's" on this forum,from a man who wrote from his point of view about causing his divorce and how full of regret he is has now for doing so.I printed it out for you and gave it to you before I started getting ready this morning for the party.But you refused to read it.I told you when I walked out of the door w/our daughter's today,that you need to read that letter before you start walking down the WRONG ROAD where WE and OUR family is concerned.I don't know if you read it while we were gone or not.
But I promise you,that if you don't screw your head and your heart on straight and start putting ME and OUR FAMILY FIRST,and your brother's and their wives far,far BEHIND US...
It is YOU that me and our daughter's will be leaving BEHIND...
12/09/11
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We see the same theme over and over lately.
1. My husband is a drunk and/or pothead that spends all our money on his addictions and/or amusements.
2. My Husband treats me like crap even tho I support his lazy butt
3. My Husband acts like the world owes him something and he overtly confronts or berates anyone that disagrees with him in any way.
So what is it that we are seeing these days with these so called "men"? Why do we have at least two generations of *men* who have no discipline, no self control, no respect for anyone but them selves, and are opinionated angry shits?
Where the hell did this come from? With mine, I blame his dad. He is a narcissistic prick that loves to hear himself talk and never taught his kids anything other than me me me me me.
12/07/11
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My husband is a douche...capital D. He spends all of our money on weed.....he swears and throws fits in front of our two year old. He has no sympathy for anyone, argues with anyone who has a different belief than him. He is a freaking loser.
Why am I with him? Because I am a freaking idiot. Sometimes I pray that he will just leave or hang himself like he promises....but he won't. Why would he leave, I do everything. I keep a job, I have benefits, I clean, I cook.
He is a joke of a man who sucks the air out of a room.
I feel better now.
12/07/11
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I only wanna say one thing to you douchebag... go screw yourself. You can't handle me. You're not man enough to handle me.
12/06/11
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I don't know what the hell I was thinking. This is my third marriage, and I should've known from the previous ones to just not ever do it again. The first one blamed me for our child dying from SIDS, and he was an asshole who decided to stop coming home after work on a nearly daily basis, anyway, so good riddance. The second one was fine, until he did either 1) cheated on me with a woman who was afraid of getting caught by her husband so she turned my husband in for make-believe 'rape', or 2) suddenly became a sexual deviant and raped a woman. Don't know which one, and really don't care anymore.
The present husband is a drinker, and quite avidly. Okay, he's an alcoholic. He has been since before I knew him. When I met him, I was just having fun, and months later...it was 'love'. I've been with him for four years now. He's had his moments where I was sure he was better, and I thought he was a drinker because of his previous divorce, so I had the fairytale in my head that my love was mending him and he would get better in time. WRONG! He's just about back to where he was when I met him. He'd probably be completely back to 'stage 1' if I wasn't so in control of the rest of his life. I'm the one doing all the housework, paying the bills, raising my kids (he's lost his...completely) AND keeping a full-time job to have extra money (to replace what gets blown at the bars every weekend and then some).
We just got married this year, and ever since, he's gone so far back down to where he used to be that I just don't want to be with him anymore, but I also don't give up easily and I still love him.
He isn't physically violent toward me (emotionally and verbally, yes) but I'm just SO sick and tired of the stupid drunken rages when he comes home from a late night out with the guys at the bar. His first words, upon walking into the door, are mean and accusing and obviously meant to start a fight. Even if I ignore him, he keeps on (for hours!!!!) until I just can't ignore him any more. There's no where for me to go, because the kids are asleep by the time he comes in, and my friends and family are far from here.
Then, the hundreds of dollars he spends all week, mostly on the weekend, are STUPID! We're always either broke or BEYOND broke because of this. Yet, we could have SO much extra money and have our own house and nice vehicle by now if he'd just quit spending it on beer!
I just think I've had it. I have done all I can for this man, and THIS is the appreciation I get?! I've done more things for/because of/to help this man than I've EVER done for ANYONE except my kids. Now I can't even do much for them because of his late-night antics.
If it wasn't for me 'stealing' and hiding the money, we'd have been homeless and deeply in debt by now. I can't tell you what I used to have to do just to get needed money for Birthdays, Christmases and bills. But now, I've been able to transfer money from 'our account' to a secret account (and sometimes back, when he gets back from his outings) so he can't blow it.
But why should I have to be the one who takes care of everything AND still pretend to be happy just because he tells me he loves me?! That's apparently supposed to be enough to keep me here, according to his words and way of thinking. I keep telling him, "That's not enough".
12/04/11
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I'm sorry for you ....I don't wanna call you "loser" ex-husband. I hope your life situation turns around and you get the things you want in regards to your kids, yourself and your ex-wife. Hang in there....2011 has been such a bad year for myself and so many people I know.....keeping my fingers crossed for some type of reprieval in 2012....for all of us, yourself included.
Good Luck!
12/04/11
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Hi, I am a man who was divorced 4yrs ago and still has not gotten over it. I have been wallowing in the deepest pit of self pity that one could imagine. I don't see my kids(3) that much even though I live basically around the corner be cause I don't have any money and can't afford to feed them if they do come by. I'm behind on my child support, my rent, all of my bills and am facing eviction. I gave up my car when I couldn't afford the payments any longer, It didn't get repoed I returned it before it came close to that. I can't afford christmas gifts for my kids and I can't find a job and live in a somewhat rural expensive area. I hide from my kids because I can't face them being this person that I've become, an unemployed penniless loser. My ex-wife was/is a kind beautiful woman who tried for so long to make me happy and I thought I was doing the same for her, but I wasn't, she didn't work because we thought it was important for one of us to be home with the kids, I voted for me but lost that one. I liked working to provide for my family and as we had more kids I worked harder and longer, but in doing so without realizing it I was ignoring her. Coming home tired and grumpy I had just enough in me to play with the kids for few and tuck them in before I would eat in a glazed state not talking or listening to my wife. I consoled myself by telling myself and her that I was doing it all for the kids, the truth is I wasn't happy either, I grew tired of everything being a struggle; paying rent, keeping up with the joneses, not being appreciated at work and having that same feeling from my wife. When she left I blamed her but I now realize that it was me, being so miserable with where I was in life. Now, four years later, I wish I would have listened to her and told her what I was going through in my mind, instead of trying to be the tuff guy who buried his feelings in his work, and attacked her when she questioned me in a feeble attempt to not seem weak and vulnerable. I miss her more than anything, and wish her all the happiness and support she deserves, but can't help feeling like when's my turn. I hope I pull my life together before it's too late in regards to my kids and she and I can at least be co parents in the future as this burden/blessing has been hers for the past 4 yrs.
I feel so sorry to all you women who are married to someone like me and hope and pray that your loved one will realize this before he ends up like me. Full of regret and what ifs.
12/03/11
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My husband plays tennis at the club 6-8 hours every Saturday, and 3-4 hours every night. When he isn't playing, he is drinking...often consuming 8-10 beers a night.
One night, in a drunken rage, he destroyed many of my most cherished possessions, and he rarely attends the kids events...BUT he finds it in his heart to criticize:
the way I do laundry
the way I do dishes
the amount of money I spend
the fact that I am a nag because I ask for help to pick up the house...since I work 10-15 hour days.
When my mom came down with cancer, he refused to make things right with her before she died because "He had nothing to apologize for"...even though he banned her from our home" And when she died...he didn't attend the funeral...nor did he allow me to grieve with any sympathy in my home.
MY HUSBAND SUCKS!
12/02/11
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I need advice my husband left me alone for hours at his sisters flat when I commented that we should leave because they are waisting time doing their stuff when they were the ones that needed a lift he also spit in my face when his sister was sick in hospital the last time we had an argument he left and stay the whole weekend away without answering his phone he does not apologized when he does these things he just acts as if nothing happened. I have a very good job and have two girls with him we have been married for seven years I feel no love from him and don't know why we still together
12/02/11
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@ Ex:
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Also, I have heard that hosting at GoDaddy is cheap and they help you with transitioning the site over to them. I see that they charge $7.49 a month for unlimited disk space, which is $45 for 6 months. Also, they have cheaper plans for less content: for example, they charge $4.79 a month for 150 Gb of disk space, which is $29 for 6 months. They also have people available 24 hrs to help help you.
I know this sounds like I'm doing a plug for them but believe me, I don't work for them, I am only trying to find cheaper hosting because $90 sounded like a lot.
12/01/11
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So, you think you can treat me bad, ignore me and I am okay with that?? You must have been in the military because you are engaging in the 4 step process that I HATE!
step 1. Feign Ignorance
Step 2. Denial
Step 3. Counter Accuse
Step 4. Demand an Apology
Screw you as you peak at number 4. You'll never get an apology from me you sick bastard! I find out AFTER I marry you that 1 year prior you video taped a neighbors daughter out sunbathing and and would jack off to it?? What, she was 14 at the time?? You look at other women's asses when we went out (which we dont anymore)and your obsession with porn is getting old. You lie to my face and when you get caught you begin the entire 4 step process all over again! You suck and I am sick of you! Thanks for the fucked up 5 years Dec.15th!! You are a piece of shit and my BIGGEST MISTAKE EVER!! 
11/29/11
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You think you can use me however you want because you think I'm stuck with you cuz I'm too afraid to be on my own. You stupid ass, youre the one who needed a damsel in distress to pat your ego...so I pretended to be just that. In reality, I'm way more competent, way,more determined than u. You're happy being the underachiever, spending your life in a safety zone, too afraid and insecute to even try to do something meaningful in your pathetic life...im not you!!!
11/28/11
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Stop trying to manipulate me to get what you want. Stop making me feel bad because I dont do what you want. Dont use my loveand feelings for you as your tools to control me. Thats not love. Love me.
11/28/11
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I managed to borrow the rest of the money to get the site back up....thank you Avi for the money you sent a while back...it helped...XXOO.
The site is safe for another 6 months.....might be going down for good after that. I very much appreciate the help from the two people who always manage to chip in to help keep it running.....this site has really no benefit to me (other than I feel good leaving it up for the ladies who use it) It only costs me money....money that I don't have trying to raise 2 kids alone.....sorry.
Hope you all have a great holiday
D
11/25/11
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pos refuses to speak to me
how are we supposed to figure stuff out that way?
you think you are punishing me by being gone
it's a relief
i am finding out that i am feeling a lot better about myself when not constantly subjected to verbal abuse
how about that!
so much for keeping your word, your promises, your VOWS
just wait
when you get done pouting and try to stroll back in like nothing happened you will not be welcome
i would rather be bankrupt and happy than with someone who doesn't know how to love
pay a lawyer dummy
we could file ourselves since there is nothing to fight over
i am not paying your lawyer because you are too dumb to fill out forms by yourself
you can't touch the land it is proceeds from inherited property
you can't touch my 401k you signed off when we first got married it goes to my kids
i am not stupid
you are mean and you suck
11/21/11
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I only wish I had ended this earlier. But NO! I HAD to give it a shot! Had to give it my all....why was I so STUPID!!!
11/20/11
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....I feel really bad about having to go down for a few weeks.....to the new ladies who just found us....keep checking back, I'll be back up soon....I promise. I have kept this site going for u guys and I have no intention of letting it go now.....
....and Flabbergasted, ya, ALL men are fair game here, so don't feel bad hon
See you all soon!! XO
11/20/11
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ok....site should have gone down yesterday......it'll be down soon, but I will bring it back up as soon as I am able to....tough over the holidays....so keep checking ladies, I'm sorry about this, nothing I can do right now....Happy Holidays to you all!! Hang in there! XO
Denise
11/20/11
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My prayers go out to you ladies and your heartbreaking confessions. I have a pretty good life and a nice husband, I guess I am one of the lucky few. I am writing today because my father "sucks"! He may not be my husband, but regardless his ass is a man, right? To start, my parents have been divorced for 16 years. My sister and I took it extremely hard. I guess at 34 I am still having issues. Anyway, my father remarried 3 months after my parents divorce was final. Whoa...what a shocker! The new stepmom was like Cinderella's witch morphed. Ha! Seriously. I must say she (the witch) has a daughter 10 years my senior. Now my younger sister by 3 years has an 8 year old boy and my stepsister has a 17 year old daughter and a 14 year old son. My dad ( if you wanna call him that) never sees my nephew, never speaks with him, and never seems to care about his well being. On the other he is always going to cheer practices and beauty pageants and soccer and football games with the two children of the elite. My nephew's father is not in his life at all and he is being raised by ALL females. Poor fella! My father lives 30 minutes away. There is no excuse. Plus his work is just 15 minutes away. My dad has a lot to offer and teach my nephew that only a male could contribute. I just don't understand why he won't take the chance. I mean this is his own flesh and blood we are talking about. I am so confused! I just wish I had an answer. I know this may not be the appropriate site to post this, but I have spent too many nights crying over the issue and I was researching about men that sucked and your site came up. Sorry! Thanks for being here.
11/19/11
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Why did I have to fall in love with you? Why did I give you my all when I always knew you were gonna break my heart?
11/19/11
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I'm disappearing. I feel like I don't even exist anymore.
11/19/11
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I have been married for nine years. My husband turned into this weird ass runner. He runs like 50 miles in one day. I found out he runs with skinny sluts and they buy him birthday gifts. He has a secret email account, PO box and has not had sex with me for two years. I don't run...I just walk. I know I don't have a body like the running bitches...but he too was overweight his whole life up until three years ago. I recently found women's underwear in his work briefcase. One sick Fuck! He told me they were his...really used! Gross me out! I am pretty and yes I need to lose about 30 Pounds...but many guys fine me sexy and would love to fuck me. His dick doesnot work! I hate him and I really can't believe what a jerk he has become. I know the marriage is almost over. He lies and only cares about himself. I hope he runs himself to hell and never comes back!!! 
11/18/11
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sorry for the double post
cat on keyboard
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