Whether you're a wife, an ex-wife, a girlfriend or fiance, chances are more than likely that you're either dealing with or have dealt with some guy's crap.
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Today
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tdimodugno - sounds like a grade "a" asshole to me. You've had to face your mortality. You've had to find the inner strength to beat not only the cancer, but the treatment, too. And you have. You deserve and have the right to mourn the changes, to be angry, sad, and anything else you care to feel. You have the right to support, to love, and to compassion. You have the right to have it take as long as it takes. I know a woman who went through her breast cancer with a jerk of a husband who said it was no big deal and gave her no support. I had a breast cancer scare last year and didn't get an ounce of support from my husband, either. Now imagine what big babies these same men would be if they found a lump on their testicle or somewhere else they value so much. It'd be the end of the world for them. So you take as long as you need and do it however you need to. And remember - you survived! You kick butt and you did it. I admire you for that.
Yesterday
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My husband has no idea and doesn't really want to know how stage 4 breast cancer has affected me. After chemo for 8 months, a double mastectomy, radiation...he feels I should be feeling great and be "over it". Honestly, it all happened so fast, I haven't even had the time to process it...but he feels it is not a big deal...I really thought it would be fine - not a hand or a foot I was losing, but this has really blind sided me. I don't care for his simple "reccomendations" on how to move forward, yet I don't know how to do that myself. Is he being too cavelier about my situation and not "getting" it from my point of view? Or am I begin a jerk and not "getting" the happiness I should be feeling in having dealt with this swiftly and timely...? Any help, advise would be appreciated...
Yesterday
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To Theexwife...thank you for your site.
To Theforsakenwife...beautiful writing
To cfgroovy...thank you for reminding me to appreciate my friendships.
Now, my husband has put his whore's family in a house 10 miles away from my front door.
He wants to live Big LOVE and I don't. He is making the decision to leave so much more easier!
But of course he tells me I am beautiful, that he is not leaving me and wants to continue sharing life with me. Dumb Ass your already did leave our marriage get a clue. I guess him screwing the other chick didn't bother me as much as the stupid sayings the following week. 
11/06/09
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Cleaning the toilet with my husband's tooth brush sounds great, first I'll brush the dog's teeth with it though... he still hasn't come home. 5days 4nights. I told him I want a divorce today. I WANT TO FUCKING RIP HIS GOSH DAMN NO GOOD BALLS OFF I HOPE HE GETS CLAP!!
11/05/09
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I cleaned the toilet with my husband's tooth brush today. Although, after browsing some of the other posts, I see another woman had a better idea for his toothbrush!!
When I told my doctor I wanted a STD screening, she was shocked, "why, I thought you were married" Yeah, I know maybe you could remind my Prince Charming of that fact!
11/05/09
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All of your posts made me want to cry. I thought I was the only one in the world that totally hates my husband. We got married not even two months ago. It was like as soon as we got married he turned into a major douche bag.
This is the story... we met on line, I moved in with him, I left everything two hours away. I lost my daughter to her father because I couldn't afford a lawyer in court, my husband was not there for me emotionally at all, he was a bad father to his own son. Then, I broke up with him, forgot about all the shit he did to me in the past and got back with him after all of his begging and pleading with me to give him a second chance. He said he was a changed man and now he sees the light and all that crap that makes me want to puke now!! Then, he asks me to marry him, me, being naive I suppose said yes, even encouraged it, God, what was I thinking?
Now, he goes to his home town all the time and spend days there. I have no idea who he's with or what he's doing and he doesn't even call to say good night. When he is here it is like he isn't anyways. He sits on his computer all day long. He makes me feel invisible, and when I don't feel invisible I feel ugly because he won't have sex with me. He is lazy and won't go find a job even though our bills are falling behind and I am suffering through court again to get my daughter back.
Last year, after I had lost my daughter to her father (who is abusive to her both physically and mentally and so is his psycho girlfriend) I had a mental break down and tried to commit suicide. I felt there was no way out... I wouldn't have gotten that bad had my husband not left to go play poker with his friends and I'd be dead had my mother not come to my house, knowing something was wrong with me... anyways, I got that depressed again and he did the same thing. He left me alone while I was crying and suffering so much. I didn't try to commit suicide because being in the hospital the last time taught me that there is so much to look forward to, but I sat alone and cried all night long, and all day the next day. He stayed gone for one night and 2 days. He has watched me cry myself to sleep on various occasions and just rolls over and doesn't care. He knows I'm unhappy and I need his attention, that I feel unloved but he says that he pays the electric, insurance and Internet with his unemployment (like he worked so hard for that money) so that's good enough.
I never feel special, I never feel loved, I think he's cheating on me, he's been gone for 3 days and I don't even know where he is... god, what an idiot I was for believing his lies... That's another thing; he lies about EVERYTHING!! I catch his in lies all the time! I want a divorce but I'm afraid it will hurt me in court that I got married and divorced so quickly and they will not give me my daughter back. I hate him so much because of the pain I feel everyday, thanks to him. I'm so unhappy... he's so dead inside. He doesn't talk to me at all. I try to talk to him, tell him how I feel and even how to fix our relationship but he doesn't listen. He's happier drinking, smoking pot all day and playing poker with his friends and doing whatever else it is he does when he leaves me for days at a time... I'm sorry, I'm going on and on.
Point being, I feel all of you and I'm so sorry this happened to all of you. What's funny is I was just screwing around and put myhusbandsucks.com in the search bar and there's an actual site!! Goes to show that men suck!! I don't believe in love anymore.
11/05/09
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Dear Forsaken Wife,
Your letter really moved me because I am right there with you. My DH is a shit, but I stay with him because of all the reasons you stated. The money, the house, the insurance...
It seems like a cop out to stay with a man who treats you like crap, but I am still here, eleven years later.
You know that you have to love yourself first, right? I know that this is sometimes hard to do. I suffer from depression, even though I am medicated. I have my own bedroom (my choice, not his) and I do sometimes at night pretend that my ideal lover is with me and loving me the way I want to be loved. Problem is, ideal just doesn't seem to exist. Through the years I have not met one man that I would want to live with. Maybe I am jaded. The years I have spent with DH have left me not knowing what normal is anymore.
I get my love from my friends and my kids. It's not how I ever imagined my life would be, but it is what it is. I want to live my own life and do things that will make my life and the lives of my children better. But I keep backsliding. My best friend died almost a year ago and I miss her so very much. She was my anchor. She made me laugh and reminded me what a great person I am.
So we, as women and fellow sufferers have to remind each other how very special we are and that we are deserving of love and appreciation. I try to say to myself "If my best friend were here now, what would she say to me? Would she make me a cup of coffee and help me do laundry?" and then I try to be my own best friend.
Try not to despair! Happiness really is a choice you can make. I have to remind myself of that all of the time. Treat yourself by performing a random act of kindness. Go for a walk. Join the gym. Whatever makes you feel good.
And know that you are not alone! (((hugs)))
11/04/09
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I just had to vent for a moment. I work at home and hubby doesn't work - he just plays. So all day long he is here and making me crazy. Today I was on a call with a customer and the jerk was in the other room pounding on the desk and the keyboard with his fist. Customer was not amused - I had to make up a lie about someone in the next cube having a bad day. Apparently he was not having any success loading a web page or running something on his computer so he figured that pounding on everything and yelling at the computer would help. Now he is just slamming doors and yelling and kicking at the dog and everything else - and throwing things like a feaking child. Apparently he broke his keyboard - so yet another expense because of his temper.
Every time I come out of my office to get tea or go to the bathroom he starts bitching and yelling at me too. I really wish this man child would go the hell away and leave me alone. Better to be alone than this.
11/04/09
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OW. I am in so much pain. This sucks. It's winter here, and my transmission is about to go out. Even your timing SUCKS.
11/02/09
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Left my husband 4 mths ago because of his constant angry outbursts, putting me down, putting work and everything else before myself and our daughter. I moved out with my daughter. He has helped some financially and we did have contact. In early Sept we started "dating" and trying to see where it would go. We had long conversations about what our problems were and really trying to understand each other. We had fun, lots of fun. We were intimate like never before. I was falling in love with him all over. I let him know I wanted to get back together. He is pig headed and said I left him and he was not sure he wanted to get back with me. Meanwhile he tells me Im beautiful, smart, funny and perfect. This weekend, I looked at his cell (had a funny feeling) and found lots of womens names in his contacts. There were text messages from women that obviously "knew him". Then I looked at the pics and videos. My god, it was my husband (we are not even legally separated) doing sexual acts with the sluttiest looking woman I have ever seen. you could have poked my eyes out that would have hurt less. So all this time he has been seeing god knows how many other women and having sex with them. There were pics of other women too. I asked him several times if he was with other women, cause I knew he had been when we first separated. he looked me in the face and lied several times. He is immature, manipulative, self centered, leads a double (or triple, who the hell knows) life and is now a man-whore. I deserve better than this. I was faithful to him for 15 years. But you know what, Im down to a size 2 (STRESS), work out like crazy, dress sexier and have not looked this hot in a long time and he knows it. So he can have his twisted life. Im going to move on and do great things and meet men, quality men, mature men that will treat me like the lady I am. SCREW MY #%$!!$* HUSBAND!!!!!
11/01/09
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10 times a day that I hate you.
9 times you threatened divorce.
8 times you talked shit about my kids.
7 years of my sentence gone.
6 attempts to take back gifts that were given.
5 strandings without a ride.
4 inches.
3 words that don't mean anything anymore.
2 kids with jobs.
1 piece of shit gone.
0 times I have to endure you again.
10/31/09
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Piece of shit left again. Staying at a motel. Alone. Yeah, right. I am so dumb I will believe anything. I can't go on like this. I'd rather be broke, dead, anything but stuck with you. YOU SUCK.
10/31/09
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ya,im exactly like you ....maybe we are all the same.just like they are all the same.
10/31/09
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When your marriage goes bad, it destroys all the good around you. It ages you, it turns your hair gray. It makes you so angry inside while at the same time so terribly sad. It makes you act like a person you never would recognize as yourself. It puts wrinkles on your face, and sometimes pounds on your body as you seek the only comfort you can find in your solitary existence.
You find yourself with no friends, no love, no one to turn to when your times are at their worst. Nobody comforts you. Nobody tells you you are wonderful. Nobody finds you beautiful. You're just alone and in pain. Maybe chronic illness has robbed you of what you need to survive on your own. Yet it also makes you so sick all the time because of the stress and that nobody takes care of you, not even yourself.
Time and time again you've tried. You've tried to reach him. You've forsaken yourself believing that you can make a difference in how this person treats you. You've played the role of mommy, boss, accountant, sex slave, confidant, therapist, self-esteem booster, cheerleader, martyr.
And all you've been left with is someone who would never dream of being even one of those things to you. Someone who demands and takes and never gives. Or if they do, it always turns out to be just a manipulation to get what they want.
You go on, day after day. For the kids. For the money. For the medical insurance. Because you don't know what else to do. Because you know how hard it is raising kids on your own. Because you don't ever want to find yourself so broke you cry because you can't feed your family. Because you know you can never be a good enough employee and a good enough mom at the same time. Both suffer and those around you make it clear that it sucks.
You lay in bed alone at night and escape by thinking of how your life could be. Or maybe imagine the kind things a lover would say to you. Or you repeat to yourself over and over that you really do deserve better. Or maybe you beat yourself up mentally over all the stupid mistakes and stupid ideas of love you had that led you here.
You wake up in the morning exhausted, stressed, and knowing it's one more day of the same. You wonder how he'll catch you off guard today with some nasty comment that brings tears to your eyes. You wonder why you are so stupid that you always seem to get caught off guard at them. You feel like you should know they're coming.
You try to raise your children and show them all the love their father is incapable of showing. You wonder if you are ruining them. You wonder if your example of marriage will ruin them finding someone who loves them. You wonder if you are teaching them that pain and loneliness are just a natural part of marriage.
You wonder if you left how they would be. You wonder how they would cope with feeling abandoned by their father. You wonder how they would feel being hungry at night. You wonder how they would feel living somewhere unsafe because it is all you can afford. You wonder if they miss that big yard, that big house, maybe their ponies and chickens and dogs and cats. And their friends.
You look in the mirror and you see you're older now. You doubt anybody would want you. You're sure nobody would love you. You don't feel like you even know how to love anyone anymore. Your idea of marriage is jaded and you cannot imagine someone you could ever trust. You feel like those were a stupid little girl's dreams.
Every day you feel like you are stuck in a cage. Or maybe like the walls are closing in on you. Maybe being drunk or stoned once in awhile gives you a moment from that reality. Maybe the occasional time with friends makes you painfully aware that your life at home should not be as it is. Maybe you see happy people loving each other and it makes you cry.
Maybe you're like me.
10/30/09
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ive been married for less than a year. My husband has turned into a selfish bastard. He's not interested in anything other than what he wants to do. Can't remember the last decent conversation i had with him, can't get through to him how much of a jerk he his being. Still thinks he has the right to grope me in the middle of the night.. Arsehole
10/28/09
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On a different note... I'm typing this in my office as the asshole is out in the living room blabbing to some guy he met walking down the street with his dog and drug into the house to continue talking about himself and his crap. It is freaking SNOWING outside, I have laundry on the living room chair that I have been trying to fold all day when I take a break from my job and the asshole can't be bothered to help. Instead he brings the guy into the house and there it is... my underwear lying out for him to enjoy. Is it just me? Or is this just beyond belief? The sumbitch won't help fold clothes or do laundry so I have to try and sneak it in when I grab some tea during the day. Then he bitches that the house is a mess and that there are dishes... but won't help. Now he thinks it is cool to put it on parade in front of anyone he drags off the street.
I want to scream!
10/28/09
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If you own the house and it is in your name you have a leg up.
Get the papers and file for divorce and have him served at the house at the same time he is also served with a court order to have him stay away from you because you fear for your life. I'm told that most judges are more than happy to do this if the property is in your name and not shared in title.
Kick the bum out
10/28/09
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Ladies.....this is why I keep this site going.....I make no $$ from it, not a dime, in fact, I PAY for it. I don't need to vent anymore but I keep it for all of you. I'm glad you all keep finding us and that we can be of some help to each other....that's why I started it & that's why it remains. Love you all.....hope you have the strength to do what's best for you & your kids.
XXXOOO
the broke but HAPPY ex-wife!!
10/26/09
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Well, he still sucks. Not interested in anything but TV.
Wearing out my fingers, going without. I've had one time of real kissing in years. Yep, I can tell the difference. Next time go blow yourself.
10/26/09
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I want all you women who visit here to know that we are all sisters.Thanks for your many kind words and for letting me vent!you are all truely my best friends.
10/26/09
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Im going to suggest the same thing to you that im going to do...GET OUT!he sounds like a cheater.in my experiences if a man accuses you, he is cheating himself.Almost every man i have ever met has been a piece of shit.
10/26/09
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Nell,
Been there---
All the things he is accusing you of, he is probably
guilty of himself.
I feel for you and your son.
10/25/09
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I can't not stand it much longer. I put up with very abusive questioning everyday. My car odometer and phone is checked everyday. All I do is go to work and come home. He seems to think I have the desire and time to have multiple affairs. He took my wedding ring away and all my jewelry because he found grass stuck in the door of my car - ya I don't get it either. I had a 4 hour meeting at work and had to put up with 5 hours of how much that is a lie and no one has 4 hour meetings. Today I found out he took out half my paycheck, now my city bill check is going to bounce.
I've got to figure out a way to get out of here safely with our 6 year old. He has stolen all our i.d. thinking I would leave him. It totally sucks because I own the house - but I have to leave to get away.
He is totally crazy and whatever happens will not be easy. He believes all his lies and has half the town believing him too. True love, I hate him!
10/25/09
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Im sick to death of begging for sex all the time....I found him beating off this morning and all he could do is laugh.he didnt even have the courtesy to look embarassed....or to stop.Im sexually frustrated all the time .it really makes me evaluate our relationship....I really cant stand to look at him.
10/24/09
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((((( Avi ))))) I have missed you.
I remember when a friend of ours lost their grown DAUGHTER.
He himself said "its been a year". So ?
If looks could kill, he would be a big grease spot with
a few hairs floating in it.
I know you are a big comfort to your mom.
10/24/09
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My husband travels for work during the week, coming home on Thusday evenings. The first person he goes to see is his BF-every time. Thye have to get in their workout time...every fucking day...7 days a week. The weekends are even worse! Saturday mornings they get together at 6am and spend the next 3-4 hrs working out, driving around and hanging out. He usually comes home around 11 am, has me make some food, takes and nap and then they hook back up and go hang out at a bar for the afternoon, or in the summertime go boating all day and then go to the bar. I get the drunk oiece of shit at the end of the weekend. To add insult to injury, I got paranoid and checked his phone..guess what?? Texts and voice msgs from other women. When confronted he flew into a rage. Then tries to blame it on his buddy and/of say they are only friends that are in bad marriages and need someone to talk to. Gee, isn't that sweet??? So who the fuck do I talk to and lean on?? What a mother fucker. I am full of hate today cause of course he just left!!! He did offer to stay home with me cause he said he felt bad leaving me---BULLSHIT! I'm ready to venture out myself. I never thought I'd get to this point but I am right on the edge. He doesn't care and it really sucks. PRICK
10/24/09
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you are not stupid hes a stupid dick!!!!!
10/23/09
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OK- my husband of 7 years has been cheating on me for two years with MANY hookers... one he likes i guess b/c he called her SEVERAL TIMES. Of course while I was away working - making the $ for our family. He did nothing but sit on his ass at home... and obviously enjoy himself... never raised a dime for us.. and it was just US at that point. I actually found out about the one hooker he invited over EVERY time I was out of town.. when I was 13 weeks pregnant... after that - he continued to search for them online until my baby shower which was 4 weeks before I gave birth... Can someone tell me what a stupid f**k I am????
10/23/09
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why not let him catch you in bed with someone else.I think most men assume if they dont want us no one will.What a bunch of assholes!!!!!!
10/22/09
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I guess life is not what it seems to be. Have have been an integral part of my husbands business and I just got the shaft after coming home from a nice vacation.
1. Cheated on my while I was away in our home.
2. Sat her down next to me to present gold jewlery.
3. Sat her down next to me to give us clothes 3 sizes to big.
4. He bought her the same things he did me.
5. He asked her to call him the same things in bed.
Marriage is not sacred...he is blaming me for not being a cheerleader after working 9-12 days. I should have married a woman. They are strong, have excellent judgement, have the ability to reason, and oh are financially stable. Oops and don't demand too much of men. My friend told me yesterday...why do we have expectations when dating and none when married.
I will survive and pull myself out of the hole I was about to climb into! But then again...that's what we as women do regardless of the heartbreak, financial issues, or level of stupid crap we have to deal with.
Oh did I mention he did this a week before our anniversary!
If anyone has a tip please let me know.
10/22/09
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Just dropping by to say hi.
Hubby is still a drunk-chain-smoking-unemployed-blabber-mouth-stoner-lazy-obnoxious-childish-narcissistic-lying-asshole. Nothing new there.
He insulted my mom last week in a new way... My dad died a year ago this coming Sunday. Mom was feeling low this week and he just started getting pissy with her about how she needed to just get over it, and that this being depressed thing was getting old. I took him aside and told him to shut the hell up - he got all angry, called me a "dumb bitch" and just stood outside smoking cigs by himself in the rain for the rest of the day. Jeez - damned baby. They were married for 56 years fer crissake and he acts like her sadness is just stupid. He, of course, would never mourn anyone since he is only capable of loving himself.
I really wish this asshole would die. He is just sucking the air that could be used for something useful - like producing a good fart.
10/22/09
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I know hes messing around does he really think im that stupid?For cripes sake ,the evidence is on the computer and nude pictures of him on his phone and they were not sent to me!!!!It has ended .The only question is when I am going to let him know....
10/21/09
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he had a girl friend. yup, my sweet husband that everyone says i'm lucky to be with had a girlfriend. She says she is 18 but i think that she is younger. he says he will never do it again. he loves me blah blah blah.....
I am trying to work on things with him, but every little thing he does wrong makes me panic and think things are going back to the way things used to be. I am misreable. I don't really like him that much right now, and sometimes i think i made the wrong decision in sticking around. it's like, i had a way out of this mess when i found out about her, so why didn't i take it? He spends too much money and expects me to pay the bills with what's left. His parents are a nightmare. I have no problem with people that have more than me, but they really like to rub it in your face. My father in law is always giving us greif for not being able to buy this, or not having more money for that. He acts like he is better than us. It's a lot of pressure, and my husband acts like his dad is the greatest guy ever. (btw, if he was the greatest guy ever he would not have let his wife treat her kids the way she did.) My mother in law actually has a degree in home ecconomics. seriously, and she pick at everything. My husband just lets it happen. When I try to stand up for myself, guess what he does.....he stands up for his parents. I don't know if this is enough for a divorce, but it's enough to make working on our relationship after he cheats not worth it. maybe. I don't know. i'm pissed!
10/20/09
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I appreciate the advice and in no way did you hurt my feelings! These are all things I've been considering but just haven't got the ovaries to do. I've quit trying to argue with him, it never works. He's such a mule that he knows he's right from the beginning and won't budge an inch.
10/20/09
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I've been considering leaving again for a while...actually I've been somewhat putting plans in motion. I'm currently buying a house in just my name and I've reconnected with my family *(who I somewhat pushed away because of him)*. I'm still just scared of leaving him...some of the things he's said really scare me, especially when his brother had him convinced I was cheating on him. He's away for a construction job this week, so I've kind of decided this is his last chance to behave...last time he went away for just a few days he had "forgotten that a friend had jokingly called 411 and asked for an escort service and then called the escort service and forgot to delete it from his phone." This time he's staying two blocks from a strip club. The thing he needs to remember is that my dad got him this job..with a bunch of guys I grew up with. So we'll see if he behaves or if he just gets hammered in the hotel every night.
10/20/09
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ya I know all about the im -looking -for- work -but -bullshitting- around- the- whole- time- husband.im tired of carrying the load.I am a full time student for gods sake...quit asking me for cigarette and gas money!!!!!I dont freaking smoke and neither should you especially if you dont even have a job!!!!!!!!
10/20/09
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To discontent: thanks. It's nice to know someone is going through the same thing (although I'd rather it was neither of us). My hubby doesn't call me a screw up thought, he yells, then he's apologetic. Then he spends all day apologizing. It's like hey quit saying sorry and freakin do something about it! Grrrr...
10/20/09
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Wow Lonely Already, that is terrible! My hubby went to Iraq twice and he is a little screwey in the head. You can't go through seeing all the things they see and doing what they have to do without losing it a little. In your case it seems like he lost it a lot. I know this is a place to rant and I shouldn't be giving advice. But I hope it turns out well for all of you. It doesn't sound to me like you should be together. Don't you think it will screw up the baby more to see you two fight than to grow up between two households? If neither of you are happy together, maybe you should cut your losses, especially if the marriage was only for the baby's sake. That's not how it's supposed to work. I hope I didn't hurt your feelings. Hope you guys can work it out without hurting each other. 
10/20/09
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Okay ladies, I feel your pain on the husband having a lack of interest thing, but here's the bad part...we've been married 10 months. When we first started dating it was all sparks and fire and excitement. Now? All he wants is the occasionally quickie while talking about how much hotter it would be if I were a lesbian. After getting married I find out that the two years he was in Iraq was two years full of cheating on me while I stay at home and take care of his brothers *(feeding them, cleaning up after them, etc.)*. By the way his brothers were three years or more older than me. I didn't have friends, I didn't go out. I moved out of state to babysit his brothers. He comes home and I expect nothing but happiness...nope, just drunken rants on how when I come home from work if my dog really pisses him off I'll find her floating in the pond and finding messages to his friend that he'd like to go to Thailand with him to pick up hookers and how hot all the girls at his college are with the words, I WISH I WaSN'T ENGAGED after them. Well, just when I've worked up the courage to leave him I find out I'm pregnant from one of the nights he decides I'm actually good enough to touch. So I try to work things out for the baby. We got married while I was pregnant and did I get honeymoon sex? Nope. He drank 2 bottles of champagne and passed out watching a jennifer anniston movie while sitting in the hot tub. So considerate, right? My proposal was even more romantic...the night before leaving for Iraq he rolls over in bed holds out a ring and says "I guess we better make things official, everybody is asking when we will anyway". My husband refused to get a job so LESS THAN ONE MONTH after having my son I was forced to go to work working 50-60 hours a week so we wouldn't lose the house. I could go on for days about my "piece of work". I guess I held onto the initial romance instead of the here and now...
10/19/09
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sorry maniacal, sounds like we are married to practically the same man.I too have felt so lonely lately.all we can do is hope that it changes or die trying wish I could somehow give you some advice to make you feel better.nah!i would probably just fuck it up...he says I fuck up everything......
10/19/09
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Hello ladies. I have a good husband but his bad qualities are so frustrating that I want to throw myself out the window. I knew before we got married that eventually the fun part would wear off and we'd have to discuss his lack of trying to please me in the sack. I married him anyways because I just thought that was something he'd learn eventually. Well, he refuses to even try! I am so sexually frustrated that I contemplate leaving regularly. We talk about it, I find articles and stuff for him to read, I have rented porn, etc, etc, but he absolutely refuses to give a crap! I'm telling you I have tried everything. We started having this problem after I had the baby. I was really sensitive about my body and we hadn't done it since I was 8 months preggo, so I thought there'd be a learning curve. Nope! Ever since I had the baby he now gets off really fast, then rolls over and goes to sleep. I have lost most of the weight, and he says that he actually likes my body more now and I think I believe it, but when the sex is terrible or doesn't happen at all I start getting down on myself. He doesn't initiate sex very often, and if I do then he expects me to do all the work. When we do have sex he is so lazy. His lack of caring makes me feel so unattractive. I moved out of my home state to be with him and be a stay at home mom, but I feel more like a prisoner here. I feel ungrateful for all his hard work and how much he tries to be a good husband in other areas. But I feel like I'm missing an essetial piece of myself (not to mention my family and friends who we can't even afford to visit). I didn't sleep tonight due to the frustration and was tempted to take the car and run out, but I came on here instead. I have nowhere to go anyways.
10/17/09
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IF I WANTED TO STAY GONE ALL NIGHT HE WOULDNT BE OK SO WHY SHOULD I BE?
10/17/09
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aaaaaaaaarrrrrgh!thank you ladies for this site!MHS!!!been married for 12 yrs and it aint gettin any better. at this point I feel like he tricked me into marrying him! at the time he had a decent f/t job with benefits, had worked his way up in the same company over four years, talked about going back to school to get his social work degree, and had two kids from previous marriageS (duh! shoulda known) but spent every other weekend dutifully caring for them and seemed the picture of the "good dad" (divorced dad anyway). I was finishing nursing school and had one child from a previous relationship (o.k. I'm not perfect either, didn't say I was.) after finishing nursing school and giving birth to our son things started going south with him losing that good job. Since then, he had a few lower paying jobs but the entire paycheck gets eaten up by child support and back support from the times he wasn't working. Now, for the past few years he's been trying (and failing miserably) to run a business I bought for us with my big fat nurses paycheck. I'm tired of working full time, earning the real money, coming home to dirty dishes and laundry on the floor, making uncomfortable excuses for my "house-husband", catching him surfng late-night porn or paying waaaaay too much attention to some cutie who wouldn't even look at him if she KNEW. All that he is I gave to him and I know if I leave him he'll have nothing. And he'll make my life hell if I divorce him just for putting an end to his "I'm a succesfull businessman with a beautiful wife and happy children" fantasy. Our son is 12 and I'm waiting to escape this trickster in a way that will be least damaging to all, but in the meantime...THIS SUCKS!
10/14/09
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Well, my birthday was yesterday-nothing. Got so hurt and depressed I damn near cried myself to sleep. He just sat there looking stony-faced at me, sayig he was sorry but I know his mind was really somewhere else. He really doesn't love me. I don't know if I even care anymore. I've been reading all these articles about how to get your husband to fall in love with you again. All I can think is how stupid that is. If I wanted to freaking play games and be manipulative, I wouldn't have gotten married! Plus, is it really love if you're tricking him into it? I don't want that. I've only been married a little over 2 years and I feel really stupid about wanting to give up this early but I don't know what to do. We all know that 99.9% of the time, people don't change. Bonnie Raitt was right-I can't make you love me if you don't. It shouldn't be this way. Part of being a woman should not include protecting your heart from your own husband. I know one thing- I'm going to tell every young girl I know the TRUTH about marriage so some won't make the mistake I did. Where the hell do I go from here? I finally graduate from college in May. I think it might be time to set up a separate checking account, just in case.
10/10/09
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In no way do I want to rub anything into anyones face but, I wanted to say thank you for making me realize that I actually have a great husband. Of course he drives me crazy at times but, in General he is great. He helps cook and clean, takes boys to the park when I am too tired. Brings me breakfast in bed occasionally, Finds me incredibly attractive and loves to please me, works hard at his job so, WTF am I mad at him? Thank you ladies and I hope things get better for all of you that are unhappy!
10/10/09
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My b-day was Wednesday. Did my husband get me anything? No. In his defense, he's deployed, but he's been online almost every day leading up to my b-day. And this has happened even when he was home for it. He ended up sending a card last minute that didn't even make it on my b-day. I feel like I'm the only one that ever tries in our relationship.
10/09/09
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Woo-hoo, happy anniversary to me. No, not my wedding anniversary, the anniversary where it's now been a year since I had sex. 
I hate my husband and finally couldn't take it anymore.
There's been occasions where I've been horny and desperate enough to almost consider having sex with him.
But then I spend ten seconds around him and I'm thoroughly repulsed again.
Happy anniversary to me and my lonely you-know-what.
10/09/09
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Mind started not wanting have sex after our child was born, and that was 3 years into the marriage. He doesn't even kiss me or hold me anymore. I miss the physical touch. I'm sick of it. I have separated from him and am considering having an affair. I'm so damn horny sometimes that I feel like climbing the fucking walls. Get out and don't waste your time--it's likely not going to improve or change--that's what I thought many years ago!
10/09/09
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Yes, I do have the same problem, and I've only been married for 3 years. He never initiates, and most of the time when I do, he's not into it. It sucks that I'm wasting all this skill and libido on a man who refuses to appreciate it. I know how you feel, sister. I don't know If I could take 20 years of this crap.
10/09/09
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I don't know what the hell is wrong with my husband. We have been married for 27 years and he hasn't initiated sex in probably 20 years. We have gone for 2 years without sex. If it is initiated, it's always me. I think he's fucking asexual. Anyone else have this problem?
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